“He’d be really good and sweet in public, but their fights could be explosive.” As their relationship began to disintegrate, the pair still held out hope of pulling together a TV wedding “to share with our fans,” Ali told PEOPLE in September.But when the plans began to unravel yet again, the once gleeful bride-to-be, who had already picked out shoes (sparkly Converses!
“A lot of times what I wanted to do and what he wanted to do didn’t match up,” she says plainly.
“One of us was always compromising with the other, or we both ended up not doing what we wanted and staying home.” When she injured her femur kickboxing and had to undergo surgery in July, “it really affected us,” she says. I hit a low.” Before long, minor differences gave way to more challenging personality clashes.
“I went back to our apartment, and I cooked this Spanish dish that his mom makes to do something special for him, so we could have a dinner and talk,” she recalls, breaking down in sobs.
Instead the tension-filled meal only served as confirmation that they were over. It was a very emotional experience.” (Ali, for now at least, is hanging on to her ,000 Neil Lane engagement ring and what it once represented: “It’s a symbol of our love, and that’s something that I still have.”) Now Ali, who is staying with friends in San Jose, Calif., will have many more decisions to make.
Then this past July, Ali needed knee surgery, forcing them to postpone their nuptials yet again.
Finally plans for a holiday 2011 wedding, which would have been filmed for ABC, fell through over concerns about timing and the logistics of flying her Massachusetts-based clan and his relatives in Puerto Rico abroad for a destination affair.last May, a giddy Ali Fedotowsky couldn’t stop talking about wedding plans. First the couple slowed down plans for a spring 2011 wedding. “I feel like, ‘I gotta lock that down.'” But as time went on, the path to the altar stretched longer and longer.“It’s just so frustrating,” Ali confessed to PEOPLE in September. I just [want] to be there and marry the man of my dreams.” Now the dream is done. 21, after being engaged for 18 months, Ali and Roberto announced they were breaking up.“I wouldn’t be being truthful if I said this came out of nowhere,” Ali told PEOPLE through (many) tears in her first interview since the split, just days after moving out of their San Diego apartment. But I had always believed that we could work it out.” For his part, Roberto, 28, “kept believing and hoping that they’d find a way,” says a source.“At the end of the day we both realized we were unhappy more than we were happy,” Ali says. I just knew that we needed to go separate ways.” When she was moving out her belongings a few days later, Roberto stopped by. “All of my things are going to be in storage until I figure out what to do,” she says.