Dating close family friend

In my first interview, they told me flat out what the salary for the job was.It was in my acceptable range, but lower than I was hoping for. Now, I’m absolutely willing to take the job at this salary, as it’s a job I’m interested and the salary is still in my acceptable range.

It could be as simple as: “I feel awkward about this, Jane, but I wouldn’t be comfortable being a reference for you. ” If she asks why, you could say, “Well, at Teapots Inc., you didn’t seem to be all that engaged in the work.To be a reference, I’d need to talk about your work ethic, initiative, and general quality of work, and I don’t feel like I can do that in a way that would help you.” You really would be helping her out if you let her know that — whether or not she appreciates it at the time.I was totally creeped out and told him that it was not allowed.That’s not necessarily a company-wide policy but he was absolutely giving the impression at this point that he wanted to ask me out.The one that really threw me off was gym membership. (Unless you were a personal trainer or something else relevant.) No, that’s totally weird.

Some employers offer subsidized or discounted gym membership as part of their benefits package, but they either offer it or they don’t; it’s not the sort of thing people generally negotiate individually for themselves. If I told an interviewer that my biggest weakness during an interview is that I am very hard on myself and I continue to feel like I can do a better job and continue to strive for better performance of myself in my career, how would that come across during an interview?You answered it as if it were any other question about company policies, rather than the gross, out-of-line statement that it was. ” followed by, “I’m having trouble understanding this question as anything other than wildly inappropriate.” Followed by keeping a really close eye on him, because someone who does this is usually someone who’s going to have loads of other problems too (as you saw later that day).I don’t blame you for that; it’s hard to have a perfect answer in the moment when you’re so taken off-guard. Frankly, it’s so wildly inappropriate and indicative of other likely problems that it also wouldn’t have been unwarranted to revisit the question of whether you’d made the right hire (had he not taken care of that for you a few hours later). I don’t want to be a reference for my lazy acquaintance I’m finding myself in between a rock and hard place.I met a girl in a seminar just after graduating college.We had both recently moved to the city and were both in the trenches searching for internships.I’m the manager at a branch location of a family owned retail garden center.