The defines it as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.
A theory developed prior to this research likens dating a narcissist to eating a chocolate cake: It’s great in the short-term, but in the long term, you may regret it.
Putting aside the politics of food-related guilt, the analogy is useful because it highlights the idea that component—all that sugar and fat—make the cake delicious, but also cause regret later on.
The psychologists wanted to know exactly why that was.
Their findings suggest that in particular relationships there’s a point where one pattern of behavior is swapped for another, darker kind.
Comments seem designed to undermine, and the confidence that was once so attractive starts to seem just a little more like boasting.
If that sounds familiar, the chances are you’ve fallen for a particular kind of narcissist.They included a dysfunctional coping after “transgressions,” high levels of conflict, and a lower opinion of their partner.The point at which those behaviors emerge marks the turn from a relationship led by the admiration trait, to one in which rivalry is the dominant dynamic.Most importantly, working with a therapist or support group can help to restore your sense of self and sanity. Kimberly Sandstrom, LMFT, is a marriage and family therapist in San Diego CA who specializes in helping people set healthy boundaries in all their relationships and can help you journey to wholeness again after narcissistic abuse. You can connect with Kimberly on Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Instagram. This trait is paramount during the “emerging zone,” or early part of relationships.